I find it very hard for me to imagine this is my last year of classes before I am “finished” – that is, finished with both my majors and my minor. After these two semesters, all that is left is student teaching. Although, it is not done yet! My new living environment is better than ever and my roommates are fantastic as well. Many new people we meet are going to be great drinking buddies and more importantly, best friends (HA!).
And while everyone has settled in and is ready to begin a new semester in our own version of “corporate America,” it means that we are not done reflecting.
I find that there are all sorts of buzz words, catchphrases, and pieces of advice we think of when we consider the definition of “true friendship.” At the end of the day, I suppose it boils down to just one thing: Did you do everything you could do without ever being expected to be thanked for it? (Yes, a variation on a tried and true statement.)
It has been an interesting four years at Southern Connecticut State University, to say the very least. Although, I am not looking forward to the colds and the world’s worst stomach virus and food poisoning episodes. Although, we can push through everything. And what some people have might not be what others are not able to push through.
There are countless “groups” of people in this environment that make up the true friendship theory of thought:
People On Campus: Those without titles, and those who know they will be both taken care of and provided for as long as they do the same for other people. These people know they are contributing in a positive manner for the greater good.
Campus Student Leaders: Those with titles who know that a “title” is nothing more than a set of words. They know they are judged not by what they do, rather how they treat others. A few of them raised the bar Monday evening when I encountered an emergency situation happening. I was able to “observe, analyze, and help correct” because THEY were the ones handling the situation. It was what is called “transformational leadership” (Google that term because it is – quite fascinating!).
Graduate Assistants, and Professors: They see many needs in students and fulfill the needs. They are the type of people that dive (or dove) in the middle of the ocean and use(d) every skill and knowledge they possess for what has most likely been the greatest practical and educational experiences they have ever had. And they get to share that knowledge with us students.
University Administrators: They are the folks pushing and pulling everything around everyday trying to make sure us students and professors do not overshoot or undershoot their dots. They even make sure we are part of a friendly and supportive community. They talk with each other and students, communicate concerns to the different factions, come to decisions, and then take action. The level of trust is absolute.
Friends: Those who are always there, and those who can see the fire when it is a very small spark, and they douse it before it becomes out of control. They are people who can run and pick up the pieces without missing a beat when one of us screams: “MAN DOWN!”
True friendship is like a machine. When the machine runs smoothly, not one person is the wiser. However, when one of the cogs malfunctions, there has to be redundancy built into the system or everything and everyone will fail.
Nothing has failed this week. Nothing.